Are you aware of Love and Fear ?

YOUR  WHOLE  LIFE  IS  NOTHING  BUT  A  DREAM.  YOU  live  in  a fantasy  where  everything  you  know  about  yourself  is  only  true  for you.  Your  truth  is  not  the  truth  for  anyone  else,  and  that  includes your  own  children  or  your  own  parents.  Just  consider  what  you believe  about  yourself  and  what  your  Mother  believes  about  you. She  can  say  she  knows  you  very  well,  but  she  has  no  idea  who  you
really  are.  You  know  that  she  doesn't.  You  can  believe  that  you know  your  Mother  very  well  but  you  don't  have  any  idea  who  she really  is.  She  has  all  those  fantasies  in  her  mind  that  she  never shared with  anyone else.  You have  no idea  what is inside  her  mind. If  you  look  at  your  own  life  and  try  to  remember  what  you  did when  you  were  eleven  or  twelve  years  old,  you  will  hardly remember  more  than  5  percent  of  your  own  life.  Of  course  you  will remember   the  most  important  things,  like   your   own  name, because  you  repeat  these  all  the  time.  But  sometimes  you  forget the  name  of your  own children  or  your  friends.  That's because your life  is  made  by  dreams-many  little  dreams  that  are  changing  all the  time.  Dreams  have  a  tendency  to  dissolve,  and  that  is  why  we forget so  easily. Every  human  being  has  a  personal  dream  of  life,  and  that dream  is  completely  different  from  anyone  else's  dream.  We dream  according  to  all  the  beliefs  that  we  have,  and  we  modify  our dream  according  to  the way  we judge, according  to the  way we  are victimized.  That  is  why  dreams  are  never  the  same  for  any  two people.  In  a  relationship,  we  can  pretend  to  be  the  same,  to  think the  same,  to  feel  the  same,  to  dream  the  same,  but  there  is  no way  that  can  happen.  There  are  two  dreamers  with  two  dreams. Every  dreamer  is  going  to  dream  in  his  own  way.  That  is  why  we  need  to accept  the  differences  that  exist  between  two  dreamers;  we  need to  respect  each  other's dream. We  can  have  thousands  of  relationships  at  the  same  time,  but every  relationship  is  between  two  persons  and  no  more  than  two.  I have  a   relationship  with  each  one  of  my  friends,  and  it  is  just between two. I  have  a  relationship  with  each  one  of  my  children,  and  each relationship  is  completely  different  from  the  others.  According  to the  way  the  two  people  dream,  they  create  the  direction  of  that dream  we  call  relationship.  Every  relationship  we  have  -  with  Mom, with  Dad,  with  brothers,  with  sisters,  with  friends  -  is  unique  because  we dream a  small dream together. Every   relationship   becomes   a   living   being   made   by  two dreamers. Just  as  your  body  is  made  by  cells,  your  dreams  are  made  by emotions.  There  are  two  main  sources  of  those  emotions:  One  is fear,  and  all  the  emotions  that  come  from  fear;  the  other  is  love, and  all  the  emotions  that  come  from  love.  We  experience  both emotions,  but  the  one  that  predominates  in  everyday  people  is fear.  We  can  say  that  the  normal  kind  of  relationship  in  this  world is  based  95  percent  on  fear  and  5  percent  on  love.  Of  course,  this will  change  depending  upon  the  people,  but  even  if  fear  is  60 percent  and love is 40 percent,  still  it is based on fear. In  order  to  understand  these  emotions,  we  can  describe  certain characteristics  about  love  and  fear  that  I  call  the  "track  of  love" and  "the  track  of  fear."  These  two  tracks  are  merely  points  of reference  to  see  how  we  are  living  our  life.  These  divisions  are  for the  logical  mind  to  understand  and  to  try  to  have  some  control  of the  choices  we  make.  Let's  look  at  some  of  the  characteristics  of love  and  of fear. Love  has  no  obligations.  Fear  is  full  of  obligations.  In  the  track of  fear,  whatever  we  do  is  because  we  have  to  do  it,  and  we expect  other  people  to  do  something  because  they  have  to  do  it.  We have  the  obligation,  and  as  soon  we  have  to,  we  resist  it.  The  more resistance  we  have,  the  more  we  suffer.  Sooner  or  later,  we  try  to escape  our  obligations.  On  the  other  hand,  love  has  no  resistance. Whatever  we  do  is  because  we  want  to  do  it.  It  becomes  a  pleasure; it's  like  a  game, and we  have fun  with  it. Love  has  no  expectations.  Fear  is  full  of  expectations.  With  fear we  do  things  because  we  expect  that  we  have  to,  and  we  expect that  others  are  going  to  do  the  same.  That  is  why  fear  hurts  and love  doesn't  hurt.  We  expect  something  and  if  it  doesn't  happen, we  feel  hurt  -  it  isn't  fair.  We  blame  others  for  not  fulfilling  our expectations.  When  we  love,  we  don't  have  expectations;  we  do  it because  we  want  to,  and  if  other  people  do  it  or  not,  it's  because they  want  to  or  not  and  it's  nothing  personal.  When  we  don't expect   something   to   happen,   if   nothing   happens,   it's   not important.  We  don't  feel  hurt,  because  whatever  happens  is  okay. That  is  why  hardly  anything  hurts  us  when  we  are  in  love;  we  aren't expecting  that   our   lover   will   do   something,   and   we  have  no obligations. Love   is  based  on  respect.  Fear  doesn't  respect  anything, including  itself.  If  I  feel  sorry  for  you,  it  means  I  don't  respect  you. You  cannot  make  your  own  choices.  When  I  have  to  make  the choices  for  you,  at  that  point  I  don't  respect  you.  If  I  don't  respect you,  then  I  try  to  control  you.  Most  of  the  time  when  we  tell  our children  how  to  live  their  lives,  it's  because  we  don't  respect  them. We  feel  sorry  for  them,  and  we  try  to  do for  them  what  they  should do  for  themselves.  When  I  don't  respect  myself,  I  feel  sorry  for myself,  I  feel  I'm  not  good  enough  to  make  it  in  this  world.  How  do you  know  when  you  don't  respect  yourself?  When  you  say,  "Poor me,  I'm  not  strong  enough,  I'm  not  intelligent  enough,  I'm  not beautiful   enough,   I   cannot   make   it."   Self-pity   comes   from disrespect. Love  is  ruthless;  it  doesn't  feel  sorry  for  anyone,  but  it  does have  compassion.  Fear  is  full  of  pity;  it  feels  sorry  for  everyone. You  feel  sorry  for  me  when  you  don't  respect  me,  when  you  don't think  I  am  strong  enough  to  make  it.  On  the  other  hand,  love respects.  I  love  you;  I  know  you  can  make  it.  I  know  you  are  strong enough,  intelligent  enough,  good  enough  that  you  can  make  your own  choices.  I  don't  have  to  make  your  choices  for  you.  You  can make  it.  If  you  fall,   can  give  you  my  hand,  I  can  help  you  to  stand up.  I  can  say,  "You  can  do  it,  go  ahead."  That  is  compassion,  but  it is  not  the  same  as  feeling  sorry.  Compassion  comes  from  respect and  from  love;  feeling  sorry  comes  from  a  lack  of  respect  and  from fear. Love  is  completely  responsible.  Fear  avoids  responsibility,  but this   doesn't   mean  that  it's  not  responsible.   Trying  to  avoid responsibility  is  one  of  the  biggest  mistakes  we  make  because every  action  has  a  consequence.  Everything  we  think,  everything we  do,  has  a  consequence.  If  we  make  a  choice,  we  have  an outcome  or  a  reaction.  If  we  don't  make  a  choice,  we  have  an outcome   or   a   reaction.   We   are   going   to   experience   the consequence  of  our actions  in one  way or another. That  is  why  every  human  is  completely  responsible  for  his actions,  even  if  he  doesn't  want  to  be.  Other  people  can  try  to  pay for  your  mistakes,  but  you  will  pay  for  your  mistakes  anyway,  and then  you  pay  double.  When  others  try  to  be  responsible  for  you,  it only creates a bigger  drama. Love  is  always  kind.  Fear  is  always  unkind.  With  fear  we  are  full of   obligations,   full   of  expectations,  with  no  respect,  avoiding responsibility,  and  feeling  sorry.  How  can  we  feel  good  when  we are  suffering  from  so  much  fear?  We  feel  victimized  by  everything; we feel  angry  or sad or  jealous or  betrayed. Anger  is  nothing  but  fear  with  a  mask.  Sadness  is  fear  with  a mask.  Jealousy  is  fear  with  a  mask.  With  all  those  emotions  that come  from  fear  and  create  suffering,  we  can  only  pretend  to  be kind.  We  are  not  kind  because  we  don't  feel  good,  we  are  -not happy.  If  you  are  in  the  track  of  love,  you  have  no  obligations,  no expectations.  You  don't  feel  sorry  for  yourself  or  for  your  partner. Everything  is  going  well  for  you,  and  that  is  why  that  smile  is always  on  your  face.  You  are  feeling  good  about  yourself,  and because  you  are  happy,  you  are  kind.  Love  is  always  kind,  and  that kindness  makes  you  generous  and  opens  all  the  doors.  Love  is generous.  Fear  is  selfish;  it  is  only  about  me.  Selfishness  closes  all the  doors. Love  is  unconditional.  Fear  is  full  of  conditions.  In  the  track  of fear,  I  love  you  if  you  let  me  control  you,  if  you  are  good  to  me,  if  you fit  into  the  image  I  make  for  you.  I  create  an  image  of  the  way  you should  be,  and  because  you  are  not  and  never  will  be  the  image,  I judge  you  because  of  that,  and  find  you  guilty.  Many  times  I  even feel  ashamed  of  you  because  you  are  not  what  I  want  you  to  be.  If you  don't  fit  that  image  I  create,  you  embarrass  me,  you  annoy me,  I  have  no  patience  at  all  with  you.  I  am  just  pretending kindness.   In   the  track  of  love,  there  is  no  if;  there  are  no conditions.  I  love  you  for  no  reason,  with  no  justification.  I  love  you the  way  you  are,  and  you  are  free  to  be  the  way  you  are.  If  I  don't like  the  way  you  are,  then  I'd  better  be  with  someone  who  is  the way  I  like  her  to  be.  We  don't  have  the  right  to  change  anyone else,  and  no  one  else  has  the  right  to  change  us.  If  we  are  going  to change,  it  is  because  we  want  to  change,  because  we  don't  want to  suffer  any longer. Most  people  live  their  entire  lives  in  the  track  of  fear.  They  are in  a  relationship  because  they  feel  they  have  to  be.  They  are  in  a relationship  where  they  have  all  those  expectations  about  their partner  and  about  themselves.  All  that  drama  and  suffering  is because  we  are  using  the  channels  of  communication  that  existed before  we  were  born.  People  judge  and  are  victimized,  they  gossip about  each  other,  they  gossip  with  their  friends,  they  gossip  in  a bar.   They  make  their  family  members  hate  each  other.  They accumulate  emotional  poison,  and  they  send  it  to  their  children. "Look  at  your  father,  what  he  did  to  me.  Don't  be  like  your  father. All  men  are  like  this;  all  women  are  like  that."  This  is  what  we  do with  the  people  we  love  so  much  -  with  our  own  children,  with  our own friends,  with  our  partners. In  the  track  of  fear  we  have  so  many  conditions,  expectations, and  obligations  that  we  create  a  lot  of  rules  just  to  protect ourselves  against  emotional  pain,  when  the  truth  is  that  there shouldn't   be  any  rules.  These  rules  affect  the  quality  of  the channels  of  communication  between  us,  because  when  we  are afraid,  we  lie.  If  you  have  the  expectation  that  I  have  to  be  a certain  way,  then  I  feel  the  obligation  to  be  that  way.  The  truth  is  I am  not  what  you  want  me  to  be.  When  I  am  honest  and  I  am  what I  am,  you  are  already  hurt,  you  are  mad.  Then  I  lie  to  you,  because I  am  afraid  of  your  judgment.  I  am  afraid  you  are  going  to  blame me,  find  me  guilty,  and  punish  me.  And  every  time  you  remember, you  punish  me again  and again  and again  for  the same mistake. In  the  track  of  love,  there  is  justice.  If  you  make  a  mistake,  you pay  only  once  for  that  mistake,  and  if  you  truly  love  yourself,  you learn  from  that  mistake.  In  the  track  of  fear,  there  is  no  justice.  You make  yourself  pay  a  thousand  times  for  the  same  mistake.  You make  your  partner  or  your  friend  pay  a  thousand  times  for  the same  mistake.  This  creates  a  sense  of  injustice  and  opens  many emotional  wounds.  Then,  of  course,  you  set  yourself  up  to  fail. Humans  have  dramas  for  everything,  even  for  something  so simple  and  so  little.  We  see  these  dramas  in  normal  relationships in  hell  because  couples  are in  the  track  of  fear. In  every  relationship  there  are  two  halves  of  that  relationship. One  half  is  you,  and  the  other  half  is  your  son,  your  daughter,  your father,  your  mother,  your  friends,  your  partner.  Of  those  halves, you  are  only  responsible  for  your  half,  you  are  not  responsible  for the  other  half.  It  doesn't  matter  how  close  you  think  you  are,  or how  strongly  you  think  you  love,  there  is  no  way  you  can  be responsible  for  what  is  inside  another  person's  head.  You  can never  know  what  that  person  feels,  what  that  person  believes,  all the  assumptions  she  makes.  You  don't  know  anything  about  that person.  That  is  the  truth,  but  what  do  we  do?  We  try  to  be responsible  for  the  other  half,  and  that  is  why  relationships  in  hell are based on fear,  drama, and the  war  of control. If  we  are  in  a  war  of  control,  it  is  because  we  have  no  respect. The  truth  is  that  we  don't  love.  It  is  selfishness,  not  love;  it  is  just to  have  the  little  doses  that  make  us  feel  good.  When  we  have  no respect   there  is  a  war  of  control  because  each  person  feels responsible  for  the  other.  I  have  to  control  you  because  I  don't respect  you.  I  have  to  be  responsible  for  you,  because  whatever happens  to  you  is  going  to  hurt  me,  and  I  want  to  avoid  pain. Then,  If  I  see  that  you  are  not  being  responsible,  I  am  going  to knock  you  all  the  time  to  try  to  make  you  be  responsible,  but "responsible"  from  my  personal  point  of  view.  It  doesn't  mean  that I am right. This  is  what  happens  when  we  come  from  the  track  of  fear. Because  there  is  no  respect,  I  act  as  though  you  are  not  good enough  or  intelligent  enough  to  see  what  is  good  or  not  good  for you.  I  make  the  assumption  that  you  are  not  strong  enough  to  go into  certain  situations  and  take  care  of  yourself.  I  have  to  take control  and  say,  "Let  me  do  it  for  you,"  or  "Don't  do  that."  I  try  to suppress  your  half  of  the  relationship  and  take  control  of  the  whole thing. If  I  take  control  of  our  whole  relationship,  where  is  your  part?  It doesn't work. With  the  other  half  we  can  share,  we  can  enjoy,  we  can  create the  most  wonderful  dream  together.  But  the  other  half  always  has its  own  dream,  its  own  will,  and  we  can  never  control  that  dream no  matter  how  hard  we  try.  Then  we  have  a  choice:  We  can  create a  conflict  and  a  war  of  control,  or  we  can  become  a  playmate  and a  team  player.  Playmates  and  team  players  play  together,  but  not against each  other. If  you  are  playing  tennis,  you  have  a  partner,  you  are  a  team, and  you  never  go  against  each  other  -  never.  Even  if  you  both  play tennis  differently,  you  have  the  same  goal:  to  have  fun  together, to  play  together,  to  be  playmates.  If  you  have  a  partner  who  wants to  control  your  game,  and  she  says,  "No,  don't  play  like  that;  play like  this.  No,  you  are  doing  it  wrong,"  you  are  not  going  to  have any  fun.  Eventually,  you  won't  want  to  play  with  that  partner anymore.  Instead  of  being  a  team,  your  partner  wants  to  control how  you  play.  And  without  the  concept  of  a  team,  you  are  always going  to  have  conflict.  If  you  see  your  partnership,  your  romantic relationship,  as  a  team,  everything  will  start  to  improve.  In  a relationship,  as  in  a  game,  it's  not  about  winning  or  losing.  You  are playing because you  want to have  fun. In  the  track  of  love,  you  are  giving  more  than  taking.  And  of course,  you  love  yourself  so  much  that  you  don't  allow  selfish people  to  take  advantage  of  you.  You  are  not  going  for  revenge, but  you  are  clear  in  your  communication.  You  can  say,  "I  don't  like it  when  you  try  to  take  advantage  of  me,  when  you  disrespect  me, when  you  are  unkind  to  me.  I  don't  need  someone  to  abuse  me verbally,  emotionally,  physically.  I  don't  need  to  hear  you  cursing all  the  time.  It's  not  that  I  am  better  than  you;  it's  because  I  love beauty.  I  love  to  laugh;  I  love  to  have  fun;  I  love  to  love.  It's  not that  I  am  selfish,  I  just  don't  need  a  big  victim  near  me.  It  doesn't mean  that  I  don't  love  you,  but  I  cannot  take  responsibility  for  your dream.  If  you  are  in  a  relationship  with  me,  it  will  be  so  hard  for our  Parasite,  because  I  will  not  react  to  your  garbage  at  all."  This is not selfishness; this  is self-love. Selfishness,  control,  and  fear  will break  almost  any  relationship.  Generosity,  freedom,  and  love  will create  the  most beautiful  relationship: an  ongoing romance. To  master  a  relationship  is  all  about  you.  The  first  step  is  to become  aware,  to  know  that  everyone  dreams  his  own  dream. Once  you  know  this,  you  can  be  responsible  for  your  half  of  the relationship,   which   is   you.   If   you   know   that   you   are   only responsible  for  half  of  the  relationship,  you  can  easily  control  your half.  It  is  not  up  to  us  to  control  the  other  half.  If  we  respect,  we know  that  our  partner,  or  friend,  or  son,  or  mother,  is  completely responsible  for  his  or  her  own  half.  If  we  respect  the  other  half, there  is  always  going  to  be  peace  in  that  relationship.  There  is  no war. Next,  if  you  know  what  is  love  and  what  is  fear,  you  become aware  of  the  way  you  communicate  your  dream  to  others.  The quality  of  your  communication  depends  upon  the  choices  you make  in  each  moment,  whether  you  tune  your  emotional  body  to love  or  to  fear.  If  you  catch  yourself  in  the  track  of  fear,  just  by having  that  awareness,  you  can  shift  your  attention  into  the  track of  love.  Just  by  seeing  where  you  are,  just  by  changing  your attention,  everything  around you  will  change. Finally,  if  you  are  aware  that  no  one  else  can  make  you  happy, and  that  happiness  is  the  result  of  love  coming  out  of  you,  this becomes  the  greatest  mastery  of  the  Toltecs,  the  Mastery  of  Love. We  can  talk  about  love  and  write  a  thousand  books  about  it,  but love  will  be  completely  different  for  each  of  us  because  we  have  to experience  love. Love  is  not  about  concepts;  love  is  about  action.  Love  in  action can  only  produce  happiness.  Fear  in  action  can  only  produce suffering. The  only  way  to  master  love  is  to  practice  love.  You  don't  need to  justify  your  love,  you  don't  need  to  explain  your  love;  you  just need to practice  your love. Practice creates the  master.

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What Makes People Fall in Love?

To be a successful Hunter or Huntress of hearts, you must, like Cupid, be a skillful archer, and aim your arrow dead center in oder to get the person whom your heart needs and you grab that very person fully without a waste of time. The following are the reasons that makes people to fall in love .
The number one major thing is the  Impressions. You never get a second chance at love at first sight. The first moments you spot your Quarry—and he or she gets a glimpse of you—can be decisive. Herein lies a ''go/no go" decision.
Scientists tell us that love's seeds are often sown during the first few minutes of a relationship. When two cats meet for the first time, they stop and look at each other. If one hisses, the other bristles his coat and hisses .However, if the first kitten gives a little nudge with its cold nose, the other kitten responds in kind, and they wind up purring together and licking each other's coats. A man and a woman getting to know each other are like two little animals sniffing each other out. We don't have tails that wag or hair that bristles, but we do have eyes that narrow or widen. We have hands that flash knuckles or subconsciously soften in the palms-up "I submit" position. There are dozens of other "involuntary" reactions that take place in the first few moments of interaction. The good news is that we can learn to control these presumed involuntary reactions. The moment you set eyes on each other, your Potential Love Partner subconsciously reads the subtleties of your body language. In these first crucial moments, he or she can unconsciously resolve to try for romantic takeoff or abort thoughts of love. His or her mind then becomes computer-like, and your date. Potential love partner continues to make rapid decisions about you during your first  conversation.
Secondly, you fall in love with a person with  Similar Character, Complementary Needs I Want a Lover Just Like Dear Old Me (Well, Almost)! If you pass the first impressions test, you enter the second phase. Here your Quarry starts making
judgments about you as a Potential Love Partner. His or her subconscious mind is saying, "I want someone like me. Well, almost  like me." If there is to be compatibility for a lifetime, or even for a date, some similarity is necessary. Our hearts are finely tuned instruments that seek someone who has values similar to ours, who holds beliefs similar to ours, and who looks at the world in more or less the same way we do. Similarity makes us feel  good because it confirms the choices we have spent our whole lives making. We also look for people who enjoy the same activities so we can have fun together. Similarity is indeed a launch pad for a good relationship takeoff. But we get bored with too much  similarity. Besides, we need somebody to make up for our lacks. If we have no head for mathematics, who is going to balance the checkbook? If we are sloppy, who is going to pick up our socks? So we also look for complementary  qualities in a long-term love partner. But not any complementary qualities—only the ones we find interesting or that enhance our lives. Hence, we seek someone who is both similar  and complementary.
Thirdly, it is the Equity The "WIIFM" Principle of Love "Hey, baby, everybody's got a market value! Everybody wears a price tag." How pretty is she? How much prestige does he have? How blue is her blood? How much power does he wield? Are they rich, intelligent, nice? What can they do for me? Does this sound ugly? Researchers tell us love is not really blind. Everybody—even the nicest people—has a touch of crass when it comes to choosing a long-term partner. It's no different than in the business world where everybody asks, " WIIFM ?" W hat's in it for
me? I can hear some of you protesting, "No, love is pure and compassionate. It involves caring, altruism, communion, and selflessness. That's  what love is all about." Yes, that's what love good people are truly in love. You've probably even missed  all about when ex couples who are deeply devoted and would sacrifice everything for each other. Yes, this kind of selfless love that we all dream of having exists. But it comes later—much later. It comes only after  you've made your partner fall in love with you.
If you want to make someone fall in love with you, researchers say, you must initially convince them they're getting a good deal. We may not be conscious of it but, science tells us, tried and true market principles apply to love relationships. Lovers unconsciously calculate the other person's worth , the cost-benefit ratio  of the relationship, the hidden costs , the comparable maintenance fee , and the assumed depreciation . Then they ask themselves, "Is this the best offer I can get?" Everybody has a big scorecard locked away in their heart. And, in order to make people fall in love with you, you have to make them feel they're getting a very good deal.  In that way, we can satisfy some very choosy Quarry.
The fourth is the Ego How Do You Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways At the blazing core of first romantic rumblings is ego . Perhaps Cupid misses the mark when he aims his little arrow at Quarries' hearts. Science shows us where to really level our ammunition and take fire—right at their egos. People fall in love with people in whose eyes they behold the most ideal reflections of themselves. Would-be lovers should be thrilled that ego makes the world go round, because Quarries' egos are very vulnerable targets. There are multifarious ways to make your Quarry feel beautiful, strong, handsome, charming, dynamic, or however he or she wants  to fee l. There are big-stroke compliments, little-stroke caresses, and a myriad of deliciously devious means to make your Quarry feel special. Subtle procedures can convince Quarries what they've suspected all along: "I am different. I am wonderful. And to thank you for recognizing this amazing fact, I'll fall in love with you.'' Everyone also hungers for security and validation. We seek protection in our primary relationship from the cruel, cruel world. And the fifth reason is Early-Date Gender-Menders. Is There Love After Eden? Everyone smiled knowingly in 1956 when Rex Harrison moaned from the Broadway stage, "Oh, why can't a woman be more like a man?" He knew his Fair Lady was a very different animal indeed. But in the era following My Fair Lady , feminists cast serious doubt on  his convictions. Now, after many decades of pondering, presuming, and postulating on whether men and women really differ in anything but their genitals, the envelope has been opened. The answer is—drumroll
please— yes ! Men and women think and communicate in dramatically dif ferent ways. Neurosurgeons can point to clumps of neurons in female brains that cause men like Henry Higgins in My Fair Lady  to call women "exasperating, calculating, agitating, maddening, and infuriating." Scientists aim their needles at the molecules in the male brai n that make women accuse men of being "insensitive clods." Despite the torrent of data flowing in about the genetic, cerebral, and sexual differences between men and women, both Hunters and Huntresses continue to assume courting each other in the way they'd like to be courted themselv  we think alike and persist in es. Perhaps recent scientific findings will give men and women more insight into each other's style, but nothing short of a frontal lobotomy could make a permanent change in which brand of neurons our brains give off. Women will continue to be "exasperatin g," and men will still be "insensitive." And both will keep on communicating in styles that turn each other off, especially on the first dates.  To avoid scaring off their prey before they bag it, serious big-game hunters know all the characteristics and habits of deer, moose, caribou, bison, and wild hogs. Likewise, serious love Hunters and Huntresses must be well versed in gender differences if they intend to make the kill. This part briefs you on how to avoid the most common early-date turnoffs to make even the most wary Quarry comfortable letting down his or her guard. Love-shy Quarry who usually take flight when a man or woman gets too close will happily meet within firing  range of your arrow.
Lastly, we have Rx for Sex. How to Turn on the Sexual Electricity is Many books on how to turn on your partner make sex sound like flipping the switch on the night-light next to your bed. "Press here to speed up orgasm. Stroke there for an extra charge." Yes, sexuality  electricity, but your Quarry's bodily buttons only  functions. Mindpower peed up or slow down the physical  is what drives the mighty machine and keeps it generating heat for many years. The most erotic organ in your Quarry's body is his or her brain . For details and how-tos, there is no lack of reference books. They have names like , and How to Drive Your Man Wild in Bed, How to Drive Your Woman Wild in Bed, How to Drive Your Man Even Wilder in Bed How to Satisfy a Woman Every Time and Have Her Beg for More . The list goes on. Such manuals are replete with detailed data for women on how to tickle that spot just below the "cute little helmet" to drive him out of his gourd. Men can examine idiotproof charts on where to let their fingers do the walking so as  to not miss the U-turn that leads to her G-spot. All of this is important stuff— very  important stuff. But when it comes to actually making somebody fall in love with you, it pales in comparison to what I'll call  sucking the dreams, the longings, and the fantasies out of your Quarry, and then creating a lifelong erotic aura that he or she luxuriates in. Gentlemen, far more important for a woman than how many times you can "do it" in a week (or even in a night) is the sensuality and passion you create in every aspect of your relationship. And the sensations  you give her every time you look at her. Ladies, far more important to a man than your bra-cup size or the curve of your hips, is the size and curve of your sexual deal with his individual sexuality. Attitude  and how you No two sexualities are alike, just as no two snowflakes are alike and with that  you have reached  the end of this topic so if you want to fall in love with any person try to take note of some elements.

Simple steps of solving problems

The major things that makes your partner fails to communicate with you are not something very difficult to tell. They are very few but because you don't reason carefully  which is making your problems keeps on going without getting solved. Below are what you should know that it is happening on the side of your partner

Fear
Husbands should not make their wife to fear them similarly to wives as you can't communicate well to each other when you have fear in your heart. Fear destroys communication. Remember, there is no fear in love instead love removes fear.

Too Busy
Don't spent most of your time on doing work, eg Reading, Teaching, Charting, or in office work and go sleeping. Please get some time and discuss or communicate with each other freely without fear.

Not Listening.
For communication to occur, we should respond through listening carefully. This has come to my concern because sometimes  when your partner is speaking, you think of something you want to say. So as he/she is talking, you're waiting for a chance to tell him/her your great idea but while you're waiting, you're not listening therefore, be careful when your partner is speaking to you .listen carefully to all what is being spoken and later think twice and reason before you reply.

Hurt
If you had been quarrelling over something little and you felt much of the pain, don't keep it silent. It will make your love half hurted and you will still feel hurt , the only best way to solve your pain is by going straight to your partner and say I am sorry .Speak honestly and also respectfully. Maybe you can start by saying "Dear sweetheart, I think I should let you know that your words this morning hurt me. In fact I have felt hurted all day. Now I feel ashamed for letting such a small think bother me so much!"
That is it. You have apologized and you were honest  and respectful while saying it. Believe me after that, your love will be peaceful. You will even communicate more freely. With that taken into the mind, you can now begin to solve your problems easily

5 things Your wife needs to be appreciated for

Today, I am giving this 5 hidden secrets that most men don't do for their wives and I swear that by the end of your reading something special will happen and you will change from weak  to strong  once you finished reading this content.

The 5 hidden secrets that men don't know its  good.

(What women do that men don't appreciate)

1.Keeping children.

If your wife takes care of your children, she is a good wife and you should be happy since its not easy to get such kind of women.

2.Loving other people

A woman who loves other people including her neighbours is a very good wife .This is important because when your are away from home and bad things start happening, there is a possibility of getting helped by your neighbours.

3. She is Kind to your parents.

If your wife is not kind to your parents, both you and your parents won't feels happy for her attitudes. So if you have a wife who is kind, polite and humble to your parents ,your marriage stays stronger forever without any temptation from your parents.

4.God fearing

Your wife must have to worship God and give Him

praise  everyday so that your family is able to receive blessings, wisdom, knowledge and power to live longest. Count yourelself lucky for having that wife with you.

5.Active when you are in public.
Some women are very active when they are in public and people always love to see them present in any kind of programs so if you have one of that type you are blessed try to keep her well.
Therefore, with those 5 things, your wife is going to make your home a very comfortable place to live in with abundance of joy and happiness.
Before we end it up, as your wife is doing those things, what do you have to do as a man? Are you going to remain silence and continue watching everything that she do ? What will you
 As a man , you should always appreciate her work. Below, you will learn how you can do it.

How you can appreciate your wife , five ways.

First, Always let your children know how great their mother is. Tell them something like this; "My children, do you know your mother loves you, I am very fortunate to have her "

Secondly, avoid keeping quiet when you know she is doing good eg when you have visitors, she always welcome them ,give meals, let them shower and take them to bed until they leaves. If she do it daily call her  when the visitors have gone then tell her you like how she treat visitors. This will boost her and she will do more.
Next, when you notice that she is kind to your parents, compliment her on it each time she does something good for them.

Another things you may do for her is by offering her gifts. Eg if you show her serving God, offer some gifts to her when she is done. You may buy anything that she likes and write on it " Thanks For Serving God"

Lastly, on hearing people comments about her, run to her and tell the exact words you got them saying to about her characters by doing what I  have written, you will greatly have peace and abundance joy between both of  you .